Insecurities manufacture jealousy.
Look around at almost any situation, and see that people who have visible insecurities in how they carry themselves are pretty much just jealous. But you know what? Insecurity doesn’t come without comparison.
Earlier today while meandering around various social media sites I cam across a post that was a quote that has been stuck in my head since I read it.
“Insecurity is wrong security exposed.” – Bill Johnson
Now reading this quote it just sticks in my mind because, if I’m being honest my insecurities and jealousy have been something I’ve really been dealing with lately. Even this morning while driving to church and listening to some worship music, jealous thoughts were rambling around in my mind.
I’m jealous of my friends for their success and talents, I’m jealous of my sister and brother for their relationships, and I’m jealous of random people because of countless reasons. The thing is, this list is pretty long, I could list our specifics and blah, blah, blah, but that would be redundant and boring.
As I lay in bed at night trying to figure out why I’m not good enough or whatever, I’ve come to the conclusion that comparison breeds insecurity, which in-turn manufactures jealousy. And you can quote me on that; think about it and I think you’ll see why I use those exact words.
“Comparison breeds insecurity which in-turn manufactures jealousy.”
One thing about myself, I’m pretty big on word meanings and definitions; I constantly utilize dictionary.com for knowledge and for fun. So that bring me to why the word breed and manufacture are so important in this exact context.
verb (used with object), bred, breeding
to develop by training or education; bring up; rear:
verb (used with object), manufactured, manufacturing
to invent fictitiously; fabricate; concoct:
As we can read there, straight out of the dictionary, is the precise reason I chose those words; breeding is done by bringing up and manufacturing is done by inventing or fabrication. When reading those definitions fully you might be slightly confused, but when you actually read the words and place them together it makes total sense.
We are trained by society to compare ourselves to others; we compete for everything, practically since the day we are born. In preschool we are awarded for being better than others and we are told to look at the kids who are better than us and then see what we can do to improve. That is comparison; we are brought up being compared to one another. In some cases this may be helpful because it may help you improve because if there is no comparison how can we know such things as right from wrong, but in some cases all it does is harm. We grow up with this idea of whom we should be and we are compared to that idea on a daily basis, and then we are told that we don’t match it so we aren’t good enough. Being told such things so often make you feel less than amazing, and when you feel less than amazing all of those places where you put who you are become insecurities.
Much like the quote above those insecurities are false securities. If we put all of our faith in our looks, our talents, our friends, our family, our jobs, our health, etc. then when those things are taken away from us they become our insecurities.
When we look around and someone has something that you assume you are lacking, that you think would vastly improve your life, you become jealous. I can say, with out a doubt, that I am suffering from jealousy of romantic relationships. I hate, hate, hate to admit that because I’m going to post this on the inter-webs, people I know are going to read this and then learn that I’m insecure in that area. A lot of times I question if any man that I’m interested in will ever be interested in me or treat me like I matter (like besides my family, cause they’re amazing, but that’s different.) It kind of sucks to realize that I was putting my security in the idea of that, that it’s become an insecurity, which stems from all the other ones I carry about my looks and my personality and so fourth, but you get it.
I sit here writing and getting my thoughts on paper and realizing that I’m this crazy person, only to be brought back to exactly what I should have looked to for my security in the first place; the Bible.
I, we, sit around thinking that we aren’t such and such or so and so, so we aren’t good enough or that we don’t matter and then we think if I was just her/him or I had that then it would be better, but that’s not true at all. We were all created with our own, specific purpose, which is not defined by what we think we should be or have. God designs who we are in our perfect imperfections, and since he’s God, there’s no way you’re a mistake.
Ephesians 2:10 (ESV)
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
Matthew 10:31 (ESV)
“Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.”
We seriously sit around being jealous for no reason at all; God made us the way we are because we have our own purpose. Who knows, maybe if I was dating somebody right now I would be missing out on one of the biggest opportunities of my life, but I probably wont even know that till I’m like 90 or in heaven. Either way, I will say, it is still really freaking hard to remember that when I see the people around me all happy and cute while I sit on my phone on Pintrest or petting dog, but at the end of the day this is what’s going to turn out best in the long run because I know God is in charge. But like I said, it’s still really freaking hard. Haha.
Situations that are tough tend to turn out to be the most rewarding though, when you over come them. And oh my gosh right now, I practically wrote a novel, it’s getting past my bed time so I should stop…
I love you all, stop being jealous and insecure and what have you, you’re amazing just the way you are. Have a fantastic week!