Romance, pronounced as [roh-mans,] is defined by the dictionary as:
1. A novel or other prose narrative depicting heroic or marvelous deeds, pageantry, romantic exploits, etc., usually in a historical or imaginary setting.
2. The colorful world, life, or conditions depicted in such tales.
3. A medieval narrative, originally one in verse and in some Romance dialect, treating of heroic, fantastic, or supernatural events, often in the form of allegory.
4. A baseless, made-up story, usually full of exaggeration or fanciful invention.
5. A romantic spirit, sentiment, emotion, or desire.
6. Romantic character or quality.
7. A romantic affair or experience; a love affair.
When you read these definitions it seems that romance is basically a “love affair.” Which is also what most of us think when we hear the term romance, we think of Nicholas Sparks novels and sappy ballads written about love at first sight, but OH! it is so much more than that. Romance is an experience cultivated in unruly passion. Passion can never be tamed, it is something that is deep within your soul. Something that longs to be felt. I know that while I write about this, most of the people reading will be thinking of solely man and woman relationships, and don’t get me wrong, passion and romance are of extreme importance in those relationships…. but I’m talking about an all encompassing romance with the one who created the heavens and the earth.
The problem with saying this relationship should be romantic is that you also run into the thing “he’s my heavenly father” and what not, but the relationship that you have with the Lord is so many things. It has so many facets and angles. But one thing is for sure there should always be a passionate pursuit. The kind of pursuit that ensues when a romantic relationship begins, but the thing is your relationship with the Lord should always be a quest to know more about his love for you. Theres a worship song called Relentless Pursuit by Kim Walker-Smith that goes:
“You can have all of me
You can have every part of me
And I, I am released to run after you, oh
And I, I am released to run after you
It’s a relentless pursuit, relentless pursuit
I will not stop chasing after you
It’s a relentless pursuit, a passion in pursuit
I will not stop chasing after you”
and so on… but the thing with that is that we need to run after him, so in that way it is very similar to a dating relationship. In a dating relationship it requires both parties to pursue, to spend time getting to know one another. If you never spent time getting to know someone you wouldn’t have a relationship; you’d have nothing. Your relationship with the Lord should be passionate, vibrant, exhilarating. Everyday should be new and exciting. Don’t get me wrong, there will be times where he seems to live on Pluto and he’s not even receiving your carrier Pigeon letters, but he’s always there and that doesn’t mean you can’t keep pursuing or that you shouldn’t. ALWAYS PURSUE.
This is my segue [segway] into the next section…
DATING, what everyone is dying to talk about. I figured since I’m talking about romance I should also cover the dating side of it. So the thing is, I am so not an expert on dating, I’m more of an expert on what not to do, but I mean that helps too, right?
Well, dating is under the classification of a romantic endeavor, and I don’t mean dating around like 400 peeps depending on who’s hottest this week, I mean dating with the intentions of marriage. As a believer, I can be super honest and say that I haven’t always dated with the best intentions, up until about a year ago I only dated guys because I would get bored and I wanted the company… sorry If you’re a guy I dated and you’re reading this, but its true… anyway, thats not what dating is for, it’s not for boredom, its for the potential of forever. Dating is also supposed to be a passionate romance, but in the appropriate setting. Romance and passion do not always mean sex, but really, they don’t. Especially if you’re a believer. The only time they should refer to sex is within the confounds of a marriage. THATS IT. But, I’ll get off my soap box now.. Back to dating, it’s so important to do it the right way. Set boundaries. Its that simple, make Jesus the center of the relationship, set boundaries, communicate, and be forgiving.
Like I said, I’m not an expert, Im not even dating and I haven’t actually dated in over a year, but I have screwed up enough to know what doesn’t work. The most important thing is making sure Jesus is the focus, when he’s the focus everything else will fall into place. Don’t get me wrong, I would totally love to be dating and have the man I want to marry next to me right now, but thats just not where Im at in life in this season, plus I don’t even know anybody that I’d even consider being interested in. Haha. Thats kinda important too. Don’t date just to date. Haha. Actually be interested in the person you’re dating.
If theres one piece of advice I could give people younger than me its that everything is in Gods timing. We can’t plan when we’re going to fall in love or get married, we just have to trust that God is in control. I mean seriously though, in Psalm 27:14 (ESV) it says “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!” and then in Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV) it says “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” So, if those aren’t good examples, then I’m sorry… There are lots more scriptures about Gods timing though, just go look those up.
And now, back to ROMANCE. So in the end, your whole life is pretty much one giant romantic drama. You should always be pursuing a passionate romance with your creator and then waiting for him to bring you your life long romantic dating/marriage relationship.
I leave you all with that. Fill your lives with passion, make your life exciting. Live everyday like you’re witting a novel about your own life. I love you all and you’re amazing!